Staying Afloat

by Allegra

[Our response to a forum post entitled "How Do You Stay Afloat As a Multiple?"]

This is a great topic. [The others here] have given really good responses.

We've known for 21 years that we're multiple, and we've made a great deal of progress in healing and establishing a life for ourselves. We've had times when we've functioned very well overall. But life throws curves to everybody, singleton and multiple alike.

The last few years, however, have thrown us several curveballs at once: Our father's health decline and his passing 4.5 years later, our passage through menopause, difficulties beyond our control on the job, and our having to deal with trauma work in therapy even though we didn't intend to dig deep enough to do so. At times, we've barely held it together.

Even though we don't have any answers, two things ultimately keep us going. One is our two nieces, who are 18 and nearly 15. The other is our desire to be victorious over all the people who have harmed us and all the traumas that we have been through.