by Laura
[Posted as a contribution to a forum thread.]
We cut off all contact with our maternal grandmother after our mother
passed in 2000. Our GM wasn't abusive to us but was abusive to our
mother, to the point where our mother had been afraid of our GM even as
an adult.
We also cut off all contact with our uncle (mother's
brother) after our mother's funeral. He was the favorite child, but he
was also an asshole. We'd always disliked him.
GM died in 2006
and uncle died within this past year. Good riddance to both. If
there's any justice, they're both crying for an air conditioner.
Our
father (d. 2014) and our first brother didn't like our uncle either.
Second brother didn't have an issue with our uncle, but he respected the
fact that we and our father and our other brother did. Second brother
is mildly disabled, and we/MDs felt compelled to protect him from the
possibility of our uncle going after his money. Grandfather (d. 1989)
was of the opinion that Brother #2 should inherit a larger share of our
parents' estate because of his disability. Both of our parents firmly
believed in dividing their assets equally among their three children,
and they did so. B2 has full control of his own money, but we and B1
found him a financial advisor who specializes in working with the
disabled. The two of us are actively involved in the
financial-management process.
Short story long, if our uncle had
been looking for a pot of gold to siphon from B2, he wouldn't have found
one. It didn't stop us from watching out for it, though.
As for
the extended family, we didn't advertise that we had cut our uncle off,
but we were honest when asked. We never had problems after explaining
to anyone.
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