Kids Rule!

by Joseph

How do your littles help you?
-- someone on PsychForums

(Allegra helped me write this there.  The words are my words but she helped me with paragraphs and making the words sound better.)

Hi to everyone. I am 8 and a half. Okay here is how it works for us.

First we have a system rule that the bigger people are in charge and they have to do the stuff that bigger people have to do. This is hard because our bigger people have the most feelings that hurt. So sometimes our bigger teens end up doing the grownup stuff.

But then sometimes some of the bigger teens who do the grownup stuff end up getting mad or tired about doing so much. Our grownup bigger people talk to our T a lot about this. And they are trying to act more like grownups now even if it is hard sometimes.

Anyway about the system rule. The second part of it is that kids should not have to do big people stuff. Cuz it should not be our job. And we should just be kids. Which is hard for some kids who had bad stuff happen. But we can just be kids now. It is okay if we want to do stuff that helps our bigger people or makes them happy. But it is not our job.

Why are littles better at coping with trauma?  Or, why does it seem that way?

That is a good question. If I had the answer I would make a gazillion dollars and buy lots of bacon cheeseburgers! :-)

We have a few kids that are happy most of the time. I am one of them. But I am a lot more than that too.

And our bigger people are learning that the hurt feelings hurt everyone even if we are not all close to the feelings. Like if we are a pond and the hurt feelings are a stone that you throw into the pond. And it makes ripples. The ripples are what the hurt feelings do to us. Our happy kids are at the far end of the pond but sometimes the ripples reach us.