Belated Update, 5/15/18

by Charity and Allegra

[Posted on PsychForums on 5/15/18.]

We talked to B1 on the phone Sunday evening. Feelings have historically given B1 the willies, but SIL has been a good influence on him during the 22.5 years that they've been married (they've known each other for about 30 years total).

We have three second cousins on our father's side. For reference, we'll call them C1, C2, and C3. C1 is male and is about five years older than we are. C2 (female) is a free spirit who is five months older than we are, and who never married or had kids. C3 (female) is more conventional (husband, teenage daughter, nice suburban house) and is six months younger than we are.

Not knowing how much we'd told them about our impending move, we emailed the three of them a few days ago. Beyond sharing the information, our goal was to have a substantive phone chat with C2 at the earliest opportunity.

None of them know that we're multiple, and there's no need to tell them. We did, however, mention that we have been living for some time with depression, anxiety, and PTSD, and that we tend to isolate, which we know can be detrimental. We're trying to remedy this, however difficult it can be to do so.

C2 agreed to chat with us by phone tomorrow (Wednesday) evening. We'll see how it goes.