Monday, April 16, 2018

Just Sitting There Doing Nothing, 4/16/18

by Charity

[To forum friends who responded to our request for support about the issues of adulthood and responsibility.]

As for "if someone suddenly appeared,"....well, we don't know. The bottom line is that the reality of the outside is very different from the magical thinking that created our innerworld. We miss the feeling of safety and disengagement that the innerworld provided.

There's so much raw emotional pain within us, and we're stuck in those feelings because we haven't found the outside support to nurture us enough to process those feelings from an emotional standpoint. Nature abhors a vacuum. We need good feelings to take the place of the painful ones, and we have nobody other than our T to help us create those good feelings.

Last night we emailed a good friend who used to work with us. She's one of the few 3D friends who know that we're multiple. We arranged to speak by phone tomorrow evening and catch up. I really hope it helps.

One last thing. I'm strongly conflicted about the fact that the five adults in our system (Deborah, Drew, Mary, Rachel, and me) have the most difficulty in dealing with external reality and the responsibilities that come with it. It adds so many layers and complexities to our difficulty in healing.

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