Friday, November 13, 2015

Dark, Scary Insiders

by Mary and Drew

A multiple friend wrote:
Locking away parts is a hot button topic for me too. Even now. I doubt it is ever helpful.

It no longer helps us, so we no longer do it. They know that ultimately we'd rather not lock anyone up, so they take the energy from our point of view and use that energy to resist all restraints.

Insiders who frighten and intimidate do so to exert control. Whether this control is for the purpose of protecting or simply for looking out for their own interests first, they see intimidation as the only/best way to meet this need. We speak from experience, and we deal with this issue currently.

As we see it, the only truly beneficial solution is for the insider in question to learn that these behaviors and the attitude behind them are no longer beneficial. This is an arduous process, but the end result is a better alternative than continuing to live with dysfunction and pain.

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